Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Can A Vintage Lifestyle Make For a Good Marriage?

Donna Reed Show
Thank's for stopping by. I apologize for not having posted in quite sometime.

Today's world can be overwhelming in many aspects these days. Politics, 3rd wave feminism, radical religious ideology and many other things of modern day don't mesh with a seemingly more conservative vintage lifestyle.

Of course living a vintage lifestyle doesn't mean we are agreement with segregation and anti-gay stance of years ago either.

Choosing to be a "Vintee" or "Vintage Enthusiast" is seen as a subculture of individuals devoting their lives to living in the past.

Many like myself have adopted the 1940's to 1950's fashions and lifestyle. I find such comfort in this and adore taking care of my husband, family and home.

I am guilty of laying out my husbands clothes every morning before he goes to work.

Some wives may find this to be offensive and subservient to a man. I don't subscribe to a "feminist" viewpoint so it works for me.  Laying his clothing out is actually an act of service A.K.A act of love toward my husband. We  have to remember that "love" is an action.

My husband and I do not have a perfect marriage and yes it has been a train wreck at some point too. Our vintage lifestyle has fit in so well with both our needs as a married couple. I love the fashion's too, I won't lie.

When we were first married we had some obstacles we needed to overcome. We attended a couples class at our church and were introduced to the 5 Love Languages. We use the 5 Love Languages to gauge what each others top need is. I recommend taking the Love Language test for couples.


My husbands top love language is "Word's of Affirmation". What guy doesn't want to be built up and told how appreciated he is? My husband loves to be told he's doing a great job. His second highest love language is "Acts of Service".

He looks forward to having a clean home. Of course that is always a work in progress as I am not Martha Stewart.

He prefers to have dinner on the table when he get's home from work. I'm not on the ""Donna Reed Show, so this doesn't always happen everyday either, but I try. Our children like to have dinner at the table as well and studies show that it's better for them to eat dinner as a family during the week.

Before we adopted the 1950's vintage lifestyle shortly after we were married 6 years ago, our life together and in both our past marriages was like a tug of war. There was always a power struggle, no one had a role and they were always chaotic. Our former marriages crashed and burned and now here we are trying something different and it's working.

Each couple has to be in agreement to what "role" is theirs. The 1950's housewife role is a comfortable one for myself. My husband's role is the provider.

My favorite part of the vintage lifestyle is being able to look the part of the 1950's sitcom housewife. 

Some may say it's quirky but I'm not willing to pass up the lovely vintage clothing styles for sweatpants just yet.

I do get the side eye from people when I'm out and about, but I also get compliments. My vintage clothing  opens a lot of  dialog, mostly from other women. The conversation is always positive. I personally think women of today still like the idea of old fashioned femininity or dressing feminine. I admit the comfort zone of  leggings and tunics is a hard one to get away from.

Our vintage lifestyle works for our marriage and I think it could work for others as well. Also understanding the 5 Love Languages  and hard work help's a lot too.

Happy Housewifing!